Often women ask me the question is, \u201cHow long is this going to last, Dr. Hudson?\u201d and \u201cWhen is this going to end Dr. Hudson?\u201d and I wish I could answer that question. \u201cIt’s only going to last this amount of time\u201d, but the truth is I can not discern this.\u00a0 It’s unpredictable.\u00a0 It’s different for all of us.\u00a0 The severity is different for each of us, the duration is different for each of us, which symptoms we have on this long list of potential symptoms is different for each of us.<\/p>\n
But, on an average, according to the research, menopause symptoms for seventy five to ninety percent of women last four to seven years.\u00a0 Now, there’s the ten to twenty five percent of women for whom that’s different.\u00a0 And we don’t know if at year three, at year four or at year seven if you are going to be on your way out of these symptoms or are you going to be one of these ten to twenty five percent that is going to last longer.\u00a0 There is no way to really know that.<\/p>\n
We are trying to get some understanding.\u00a0 If you’ve had severe PMS, it seems to have some prediction on menopause being more severe.\u00a0 That’s one thing we seem to see a correlation with now.\u00a0 But unfortunately, we can’t really predict what your menopause is going to be like, let alone, can we predict how long it’s going to last.\u00a0 But we can work with the law of averages and try to give some reassurance. And most symptoms are temporary in most women.<\/p>\n
The problem is there’s the women that are not \u201cmost women\u201d and the problem is that there are a few symptoms that tend to be progressive, like vaginal dryness, vaginal thinning, urinary incontinence, that set of symptoms tends to get worse with time because that tissue gets more consequences as it is deprived of estrogen for a longer period of time.\u00a0 But most other things, symptoms, not bone loss, not some of those things, but symptoms, most of those are temporary in most women.<\/p>\n
So far we don’t have any strong connections as to what your mother’s menopause was like in telling us what our menopause is going to be like.\u00a0 And also, a lot of forty, fifty something year old women now who are just going through this key menopause time have mothers that in their generation, many health problems were solved by removing the uterus and the ovaries.\u00a0 We have more progressive surgeries now, many more medical options, so the doctors and patients don’t have to choose that as often.\u00a0 But, for some of us, we don’t know what our mother’s menopause would have been like anyway because she went through it in a rather unnatural fashion by having suddenly her ovaries removed.\u00a0 And of course hormones were prescribed more easily, less judiciously, you might say, back in those days as well.\u00a0 It’s more selective now, more weighing the benefits and the risk and more desire on the part of the practitioner to use hormones for the shorter amount of time mostly in this sort of temporary window of symptoms.<\/p>\n
For men, if your partner is going through menopause, you might wonder what you can do to be helpful.\u00a0 And the first thing I think to maybe look at it in terms of your previous experience with your partner is, have you already been through years or months or decades of PMS? And how that has been going and what that has asked of you.\u00a0 It’s similar.<\/p>\n
You know I think many men can find it very difficult and challenging to have empathy and really understand what is going on with their partner during this time of menopause changes.\u00a0 And I empathize with that.\u00a0 It’s a challenge, because often you don’t know what to expect, and you don’t know if it’s you or if it’s them.\u00a0 If it’s them is it some character defect or is it a health problem. \u00a0I would just really encourage men to try to learn as much as they can about menopause and I would encourage men to ask their wives and partners questions and really kind of try to bring forth your best inquisitive self.\u00a0 You’re curious.\u00a0 You are asking questions, you are wanting to understand.\u00a0 I think that’s a useful approach because chances are, she’s not faking it.\u00a0 Chances are, she’s not lying to you about what’s going on with her. Chances are she’s really needing some help.\u00a0 And if she’s had a difficult time with PMS, and that’s already been challenging for the family, it’s very similar here.\u00a0 The mood swings…if it’s been difficult to deal with a teenager and their hormonal changes, it’s very similar.\u00a0 It requires us being more patient, it requires us being more caring, maybe even anticipating, much like you would if someone you knew didn’t feel well.\u00a0 You just try to do a little TLC.\u00a0 You try to do a little bit to help out here and there and even just the littlest things can make a really huge difference.\u00a0 A little piece of dark chocolate under the pillow, or \u201ccan I help you with the dishes tonight\u201d.\u00a0 \u201cIt looks like you’ve had a really hard day\u201d.\u00a0 Just a little extra and I would gather that would come back in a favorable way to you.<\/p>\n
And I know that we want things to be balanced in relationships and you don’t want to feel like you are always trying to compensate for what seems to be not going well with your partner but men have hormonal changes too and generally that comes a little bit later and looks a bit different.\u00a0 But I think just this inquisitiveness, trying to learn yourself, bring forth your best questions and empathy, I think that’s what my advice would be.<\/p>\n
Our thanks to Dr. Hudson. For more information visit us at: www.planetsweetpea.com.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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